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Paperback / ISBN-13: 9781399815437

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It might be surprising to learn that the emotional qualities that allow you to remain close to others, empathize, collaborate, compromise, perspective-take, and easily resolve conflict, in most healthy relationships, can actually backfire with a narcissist.
Why? Because you see the good. You trust. You empathize. These emotionally intelligent attributes keep you connected to others and help you resolve conflict amicably and maintain healthy relationships.
Written by psychotherapist and attachment expert, Dr. Erin Leonard, How to Outsmart a Narcissist breaks down how a narcissist manipulates and exploits these traits and details strategies to protect yourself against their attacks, whether they come from a romantic partner, a work colleague, a spouse, a co-parent, or a family member.
Filled with relatable stories, emotionally intelligent solutions, and practical advice to help you outsmart the narcissist in your life, this is your guide to finally finding peace from their chaos.


This is a must read for anyone who has found themselves befuddled, shocked, angry, hurt or just plain confused following interactions with a narcissist. It details in clear, precise language the techniques that narcissists will use to infiltrate your life and how you can deal with them. The book covers many situations where you might encounter a narcissist, from the workplace (I found that particularly interesting and useful) to a romantic partner or a family member and how to deal with them (since using empathy won't work with them). There were a lot of behaviors explained and some useful terminology as well.
5-star NetGalley Review
Narcissists inhabit the world, and this incredibly helpful guide gives great tips on identifying them and dealing with their toxic behavior. Highly recommended!
5-star NetGalley Review
It's like having a secret weapon in my pocket for outsmarting those narcissists. If you have the misfortune of having to deal with them.
5-star NetGalley Review