Let’s be honest: most men feel completely unprepared for the menopause. And it can come at you fast. One moment, life feels normal. The next, everything’s changed – her mood, her sleep, her energy, your connection. You want to help, but you don’t know how – and you’re worried you’ll only make things worse. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. But it’s time to stop guessing – and start getting it right.
Burning Up, Frozen Out is the first practical, expert-led guide to perimenopause written specifically for men. It’s not about fixing her – it’s about understanding what’s really going on, learning what helps, and becoming the partner who shows up when she needs you most. Clear, compassionate and refreshingly straightforward, it demystifies the science, explains the symptoms, and gives you the tools to navigate everything from hot flushes and hormone therapy to stress, sleep, sex and communication – without putting your foot in it. Again.
But it’s not just about her – men go through big changes in midlife too. You’ll also learn what’s happening with you – hormonally, physically, emotionally – and get science-backed advice on sleep, stress, food and fitness to help you both build a fitter, happier, healthier future together.
Written by award-winning author Joe Warner and Rob Kemp, and packed with insights from world-leading experts including Dr Louise Newson, Dr Stacy Sims and Dr Kelly Casperson, Burning Up, Frozen Out will give you the clarity, confidence and game plan for getting through menopause together – more connected and better prepared for whatever life throws at you.
Burning Up, Frozen Out is the first practical, expert-led guide to perimenopause written specifically for men. It’s not about fixing her – it’s about understanding what’s really going on, learning what helps, and becoming the partner who shows up when she needs you most. Clear, compassionate and refreshingly straightforward, it demystifies the science, explains the symptoms, and gives you the tools to navigate everything from hot flushes and hormone therapy to stress, sleep, sex and communication – without putting your foot in it. Again.
But it’s not just about her – men go through big changes in midlife too. You’ll also learn what’s happening with you – hormonally, physically, emotionally – and get science-backed advice on sleep, stress, food and fitness to help you both build a fitter, happier, healthier future together.
Written by award-winning author Joe Warner and Rob Kemp, and packed with insights from world-leading experts including Dr Louise Newson, Dr Stacy Sims and Dr Kelly Casperson, Burning Up, Frozen Out will give you the clarity, confidence and game plan for getting through menopause together – more connected and better prepared for whatever life throws at you.
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Burning Up, Frozen Out is a must-read for any man who wants to truly understand and support the women in his life through menopause. Joe Warner and Rob Kemp break down the science, emotions, and realities with clarity and compassion. This book opens the door to better conversations, deeper empathy, and shared understanding; a vital step toward changing how we all think and talk about menopause.
Every man should read and learn - this book has been so well-written and impressively researched!
An invaluable manual; no married man should even think of approaching middle age without it.
Essential reading for every man who cares about a woman.
Men - ignore this book at your peril. Whether you're neck-deep in menopause madness or bracing for the storm ahead, this is your survival manual: entertaining, informative and laugh-out-loud funny. It could be the one thing that saves your sanity - and your relationship.
As a Registered Nutritionist, I see in my clinic how vital it is for couples to navigate midlife and menopause with understanding, compassion and evidence-based guidance. Joe and Rob have created a clear, practical and relatable guide that not only helps men understand the menopause, but also strengthens relationships at a stage of life when connection matters most. Burning Up, Frozen Out will make a real difference for so many couples.
This is the midlife Bible for both men and women. It's the book I wish my partner had had when I was struggling with menopause symptoms. Clear, funny and potentially a lifesaver, everyone should read it.
Puts the men into menopause and explains with science what's happening to your loved one.
Joe and Rob have written an essential and entertaining book that filled holes in my knowledge I didn't know existed. They approach the topic with a great deal of compassion and a thirst for knowledge that's infectious, and it's funny too! Everyone should read it.
As a woman soon approaching perimenopause, I want both me and my husband to be prepared as possible for whatever tumult lies ahead. Ignoring something doesn't make it go away, and I'm so glad to see it being openly discussed with the compassion and nuance the topic deserves.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Thank you to Joe and Rob for providing us with the tools to stay connected through the challenges of menopause, and for recognizing that while this life change happens in women's bodies, its impact on our relationships is profound. The advocacy for communication and understanding in this book will save relationships.
This is the essential guide for any man wishing to understand menopause better, told from a man's perspective. It will also give you a fundamental insight into your own hormones and helps us appreciate that we are not that different after all.
This is the book that every partner needs to read. Navigating menopause can be lonely for everyone, especially when you don't know what they are going through or how to support them. Joe has put the guide you need in the pages of this book. A must-read.
Menopause impacts everyone, yet men are so often left out of the conversation. This book finally gives them the tools and confidence to navigate this chapter side-by-side with their partners.
Yes! A book that lifts the lid on the menopause conversation and brings men into the story with honesty, humour and hope. It smashes the silence around menopause and hands men the clarity and confidence to show up as true partners. It's practical, powerful and essential.
This book is a real game-changer - clear, compassionate, and brilliantly practical. Joe and Rob strip away the confusion and give couples the tools to face menopause together with confidence, understanding, and real connection. Every man who reads it will feel better equipped to support the woman he loves, and every woman will feel the difference.
If your partner has no idea what's happening to you, why you cried when you couldn't find your car keys and then shouted at the cat, buy them this book. Immediately.
Essential reading for any man who wants to understand menopause and support his partner through it. Practical, honest and emotionally intelligent, this book shows how navigating this life stage together can deepen connection, strengthen empathy and enhance your relationship rather than pull you apart.
This book is a treasure-trove of information, written in an engaging manner, with insights relatable to men seeking to understand the menopause. Whether you are a husband, son, friend or colleague, this book will help you be menopause-aware.
This book is a must-read for any man who is struggling to understand the menopause and the impact can have on their relationships.