Why Does Everybody Hate Me?
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Why Does Everybody Hate Me?

by Alex Partridge

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Genre: Coping With Personal Problems / Popular Psychology / Psychology: Emotions

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The No. 1 Sunday Times Bestselling Guide to ADHD, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and emotional resilience from the host of the ADHD Chatter podcast.


“This book is life changing, I don’t say this lightly… it’s one you will pick up again in future to remind you of the tools to use like a guide.”

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Reader Review


“This is such a beautiful and important book, and I’m so glad I bought it. I can’t thank the author enough for their empathy, clarity and bravery.”

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Reader Review


“Amazing book… I’ve bought several copies for friends with ADHD, and recommended it to others. A must read for anyone with ADHD!”

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Reader Review




📅 Your boss asked you for a chat, and you just knew you were going to be fired.

🌙 You didn’t sleep all weekend… and you weren’t fired.



👍 Someone answered your message with a thumbs-up emoji, and you just knew they hated you.

📵 So you stopped talking to them, they eventually stopped texting, and now you miss them like crazy.



🎬 Someone went for a bathroom break mid-film, and you just knew it’s because they think your taste in films is terrible.

😞 You were so upset you missed the rest of the film, and they left early.




Rejection is physically painful for you. Even the most minor criticism stings. And why wouldn’t it? By the time you were 12, you’d received 20,000 negative messages about yourself, your brain and your unique ADHD way of living life.



20,000.



Alex Partridge knows how it feels to live with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), the state of emotional dysregulation experienced by almost everyone with ADHD. Throughout his journey from successful entrepreneur to neurodiversity campaigner and host of the hugely successful ADHD Chatter, Alex has been haunted by the fear of rejection, labelled ‘over-sensitive’, and fought constantly against the desire to people-please and protect himself from emotional harm.



In Why Does Everybody Hate Me?, Alex draws on his own experience of RSD and shares how it has coloured every aspect of his life, from his days as founder of global social media brands UniLad and LadBible to his adult relationships, mental health struggles and persistent imposter syndrome. Drawing on insights from some of the world’s leading ADHD experts, he offers simple, practical steps to help you regain your boundaries, rebuild your confidence and strengthen your self-belief.



You are not ‘too sensitive’ – nor are you broken. You were always enough.

Reviews

[Alex's book] is thorough, articulate, beautifully written, and validating for people with RSD. It is perfectly crafted for all those whose lives are distorted by perceptions of being hated, but who here can feel seen and accepted. A wonderful and much needed contribution.
William Dodson, MD, LF-APA
RSD is very real; Alex knows what he is talking about, and is a crucial voice on neurodivergence. This book is a great tonic for anyone who struggles with rejection.
Matt Haig
It takes a true visionary and a genuinely passionate advocate to take on something as painfully misunderstood as Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, and Alex Partridge is that person. This passionate and profoundly moving book speaks directly to all those who struggle with one of the most challenging elements of ADHD, reassuring them that their lives do not need to be blighted by these awful feelings and offering them a guiding light in the darkness. Brilliant, honest, beautiful, and essential reading for all of us in the ADHD community - and beyond.
Edward Hallowell, MD
So few people understand how painful RSD is to live with, and how it can affect every part of someone's life. Alex really gets it. By bringing RSD out of the shadows in this brilliant book, he takes away the stigma and the shame, replacing them with compassion, understanding and hope.
Dr Alex George
Alex is so good at opening up the conversation about the most difficult and distressing parts of life with ADHD - this is such a helpful book for anyone who wonders why they constantly feel so ashamed and broken. Lots of practical advice, lots of kind words to support the reader - this book will make a huge difference to very many people.
Susannah Constantine
Once again Alex has produced a book that is essential reading for people who are living with ADHD. Understanding RSD is vital for the person who has ADHD and the people in the lives of someone who has ADHD. Alex explains with kindness,compassion and wit, how to live with RSD and no, everyone doesn't hate you, it's RSD!
Dr Mark Rackley
RSD is a very real threat to the mental health of so many people - it's hard to understand the almost-physical pain that rejection can cause unless you've experienced it yourself, thousands of times. Why Does Everybody Hate Me? is a long-overdue and much-needed book: finally, someone is talking about the huge emotional burden that the neurodiverse community carries, and offering compassion, support and advice that can genuinely make a difference.
Bryony Gordon
In a world with plenty of information, you can trust Alex to really care about helping people with ADHD symptoms such as RSD not feel alone, providing hope that progress, not perfection, is the safest goal.
Nelly Furtado